If there’s anything I hope that my readers learn from my blog, it’s that I’m not very traditional. And by not very traditional, I mean pretty much entirely unconventional. I focus the majority of my Wedding Wednesday series on ideas for less than traditional weddings and this week’s topic is engagement rings.
One of the wedding traditions that confuses me the most is the search for the engagement ring. Tradition has convinced us that the ring should cost three months salary and be platinum or gold. The “4 C’s” often overshadow more important things like sentiment and history. Rather than promoting finding the BEST engagement ring and how to maximize your budget in your search, focus should be shifted to finding the right ring. The ring that tells the truest story of your love and your relationship.
The right ring may not be platinum. Or gold. Or two carats or one carat or even a quarter of a carat. It may not have cost three months salary or three weeks. It may not have even come from a jewelry store. The right ring is the one that reminds you most of the moment you realized you met the person you can’t imagine your life without.
The right ring may be something hand crafted from the market of a foreign country while on your first backpacking trip together. Maybe it’s your mother’s or your grandmother’s or your great grandmother’s. The right ring may be something you found at the flea market while shopping together for sweaters for your annual ugly sweater party.
Perhaps instead of investing hours pinning and researching the best ring, spend that time having the best relationship and being the best partner. Stop looking to others’ rings for comparison because it’s not your story to tell. Have confidence that the ring that speaks perfectly to your relationship will find you and in 50 years you’ll be reminded of the time you were young and crazy in love rather than the carefully worded speech from the man behind the counter.
Question of the Day
What’s the story behind your engagement ring?